October: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

For this month's Self-Care Isn't Selfish, Kendra Stein presented on Terry Real's book Fierce Intimacy. Kendra, who had the privilege of training under Terry Real, shared his revolutionary approach to living in connection, called “full-respect living.” She introduced a practical tool to help us engage with this approach.

Using a grid centered on the healthy components of curiosity, regulation, and compassion, Kendra guided us in identifying our tendencies within four quadrants: grandiosity, shame, walled-off, and boundaryless. Understanding where we fall on this spectrum helps us self-correct and cultivate greater connection and intimacy.

Kendra emphasized, “Even one person in the relationship can make a big difference by learning and practicing the concepts.”